My husband and I speak very different languages. His involves a clear set of words in a logical sequence, and mine involves broken sentences, some grunting, and a LOT of pointing and nodding in an intended direction.

I know our language barrier is really frustrating for my husband. I mean, why wouldn’t it be frustrating when a massive spider is running full speed across the living room and all you can do to communicate to your husband where a tissue, shoe, or other heavy object is is stammering and point when he’s pressing you for an answer and visibly annoyed?

Being a mom has zapped my brain cells and fried my reflexes (actually, my husband would tell you I never had much in the way of reflexes before having kids — and I can’t remember well enough to be able to argue the point, ahem). Being a mom has also shifted a lot of my focus off my husband and onto my kids. Makes sense though — one is self-sufficient, the others are not. One can understand all of the different demands of my day, the others cannot. But the others are draining most days. Even on good days I seem to have nothing left for my husband other than to just sit on the couch next to him after bedtime with snacks and the television.

Our different languages cause frustrations during our week, whether either of us says them out loud or not. I know he’d love more quality time with me. I’m sure me slumping down my frazzled, smelly, end-of-the-day self on the couch next to him after the kids go to bed and then mindlessly watching a television show with him isn’t fulfilling his need to connect with me. And I KNOW my evening ritual of eating a bowl of cereal before bed is anything but attractive (ironically, I accidentally typed “butt attractive”, which is probably more accurate). My poor husband always waits for “the milk burp”, as we have named it. One of my favorite outfits to put on after the kids go to bed is my comfy capri bottoms, fluffy slipper socks that basically close in that shin gap provided by the capris, an comfy shirt, and a sweatshirt. I care not the color scheme. It’s definitely one of those outfits that’s farther from “ow ow!” and closer to “bow wow.”

Proverbs 5:18 says to “rejoice in the wife of your youth” (NIV). It also goes on to call us wives “a loving doe, a graceful deer.” What a word picture! Am I still loving by the end of the day? Am I still graceful? That’s a good challenge for me. For me I know this means I need to work on being more emotionally and physically available to my husband after the adorable little distractions have been tucked in bed for the night. I want to be the wife that my husband rejoices in for years and years to come. I also want to be able to speak in complete sentences again……so it looks like I have a lot to pray about and work on 🙂

Here are some other great verses about marriage to be challenged and encouraged by:

“A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones” Proverbs 12:4

4 (NIV).

Hmmm, there are some good words to look up in the dictionary. What are you like? This makes me want to strive to be even more nobley…nobly……..of more nobleness than ever before.

“Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord” Proverbs 19:14 (NIV).

Your husband has been BLESSED by you! You’re a gift from God to him. What can you do to further bless your husband as an act of worship to the Lord?

“Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find? The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him” Proverbs 20:6-7
6 (NIV).

Does this make you admire your husband?! Tell him how blessed you are to have such a man of integrity and how blessed your kids are to have a father who strives to provide and do the right thing.